“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
― Thomas A. Edison
“Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.”
― Truman Capote
“Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.”
― F. Scott Fitzgerald
So you set a goal and didn’t reach it. You applied for a new job and you didn’t get it. You asked out someone new and they said they are already seeing someone. This and many more are all examples of falling. The great news is, these examples are not the end all be all. It is just a situation that didn’t quite workout the way you wanted.
Too be completely honest, it is like a punch to the gut we fall short of our goal. Actually, it sucks like your grandma’s Hoover vacuum. It can really mess with our heads and confidence, which can put our mindset and our potential in a cage. Sometimes we get to that point where we say, “why do I even try?”
Let me tell you why you try. We don’t learn from success nearly as much as we do from failure. Think of all the successful people you look up too. Do you think they are just coasting through life with no failures? Absolutely not! What these people did and still do are find ways to bounce back, even after the hardest of falls.
I am not going to lie. I have fallen more times than I care to remember. I used to think (and sometimes still do) that I am the President of the 10 to 1 club, meaning it takes me 10 steps to accomplish something when it takes everyone else 1. Over these last 5 years, I have gone from feeling almost completely defeated to feeling like I am one of the richest people on the planet. Here is how.
1. ATTITUDE and MINDSET!
Many things are out of our control. But what isn’t out of our control is how we look at situations that don’t go as planned. Of course, you are allowed to be upset or mourn when something goes wrong, however you shouldn’t allow yourself to stay in that mindset for too long. Get back up and try again. It really is that simple.
This one is huge to me. We all know someone who has been through an abusive relationship of some sort. These people are going through hell and usually don’t realize it. They are so used to hearing negative comments about themselves they actually start to believe it. Well guess what, it also works the other way. When you start hearing positives about yourself, you can start to believe that too (just don’t let your head explode). Start each day looking at yourself in the mirror and give yourself a compliment. Tell yourself you are “RAD” or “AWESOME”. Over time, the more you hear it, whether it’s from an outside source yourself, the more you will start to accept it.
3. Goal-setting! I can’t stress enough how important it is to set goals. Many of us set these long-term goals and then get so down when we fall short. The idea is right, it’s the approach that needs work. Look at the long-term, but make some short-term and attainable goals that will lead you there. A small victory is a victory nonetheless and is a step in the right direction. One thing I do every few months is make a vision board which is displayed here. I map out my goals, short and long-term. I write down adventures I want to take, places I want to travel, and surround these visions with positive and encouraging pictures. I place this vision board somewhere I will see it everyday. It is my belief that the more I see this, the more my choices are influenced to help me reach them. Oh the power of our sub-conscious.
4. Health and Wellness! Did you know that the best drug to battle the blues is exercise and diet. A gym membership is a lot cheaper and more exciting than a doctor’s office. Not only does exercise and diet help(not comfort foods I might add) help battle disease and illness, it actually helps release chemicals in the brain that act as natural painkillers which in turn help with sleep, energy level, and your mood. Simply put, start being active. If you need help on this one, send me a message.
5. Support! If you want to be happy and positive, doesn’t it make sense to surround yourself with those types of people. If you want to stop being negative, surround yourself with more upbeat people. If you want to get in better shape, hangout with active types. The people you surround yourself with can make all the difference. One, you can feed of their energy, and two, these people can be that support for when you do fall.
Probably the most important. Be thankful for everything you have. Don’t get caught up in focusing in what you don’t have, rather take a look at all the great things you do have. One of my favorite tricks to get myself out of funks is writing down the many things I am grateful for (I smell a top 5). When I am done I feel so much better and realize I have a lot going for myself.
Remember, falling is ok. Falling is important! Falling may hurt, but it teaches us to get back up, and getting back up defines who we are. Do yourself a favor, find a way, get back up and “BE AWESOME!” We all have it in us I promise!
Top 5 things I am grateful for!
1. My Mom: This woman single handily has defined the word AWESOME for me. Thanks Mom!
2. My friends and family: This is a big list, but you all should know who you are and know that I appreciate you. MUCH LOVE!
3. My health: I am lucky enough to have all my senses and am able to do the things I enjoy. There is no price on that.
4. My Education: This is a no-brainer! I have learned in so many ways and it has gotten me this far.
5. Peanut Butter: Hey, it’s my list and Peanut Butter is the BOMB!