Last time I talked about comfort zones and how you only grow when you step outside of them. So that leads me to continue this week by building more on that. You ever pass in work, or complete something and at that moment you think this is pretty awesome, only later feeling that you could have done a better job. Or something happened after you pushed “publish” and you’re like, “DAMN, that would have been great to include.” Well that is what happened here.
Let me just put this out there, it has been a while since I have written for an audience, so I am a little rusty. Do I think I have a lot offer you guys? Yeah I do, otherwise I wouldn’t be putting so much work into this dream. However, I fear that sometimes my message won’t get out there as well as I want it too, and that it will be sub par compared to others. Let’s just say, I am outside my comfort zone. However, even though I am scared of putting myself out there and afraid of falling, I still feel like I need to push forward.
When this blog idea came to me, some other things were taking place at the exact moment. The big one, making 2016 the “YEAR of the SPARTAN.” For those of you that don’t know what a Spartan race is, Google it. It’s a metaphor for life through obstacle races…at least that is how I view it. I decided that I wanted to challenge myself and try to inspire others through my actions and my falls, so I put a lot of money down (scary in its own right) bought a seasons pass, made travel plans (more money…eek) and asked my trainer, a certified Spartan coach and a man who gives “outside the comfort zone” a whole new meaning, to help me get there. With some goals, set by the both of us, and comfort zones pushed, I have embarked on this journey with hopes that this may light a little fire for my readers.
So now I am out of the comfort zone…AWESOME! “But what if I fall?” Why not fall forward? Notice I am using the word fall, not fail. On my journey out to California, I had a breakfast with some distant family members in Arizona. I was excited to actually be doing this trip. I was excited of the possibilities and what could be. I was also scared shitless. What if it didn’t workout the way I envisioned? What if it was a struggle that I wasn’t ready for? What if, what if, what if? It was at this breakfast I was given this great advice; “If you are going to fall, why not fall forward.”
That little saying has made a huge difference not only in this move to California, but in so many aspects of my life. My vision of coming out here was all the positives. But when I sat down and really thought about it, I realized that I was probably going to experience many downs. How I reacted to them is the key, and that reaction is all about mindset. As individuals, we have the power and the choice on how we view things. We can look at falling forward as a failure, or we can look at falling forward as a step closer to our destination or goal.
So at this point, you should be coming up with things to do to challenge your comfort zone. The next step is getting your mindset in the right place. When broken down, almost everything should have a silver lining, a lesson that one can learn from, or some positive takeaway. Just remember, if you fall, fall forward. Part two will talk about what to do when we fall and what you can do to get back up.
Top Five Falls…and what I learned from them (in no particular order)
- Letting old man Wither’s school me on the poker tables and clean out my rent money: Establish rules and stick to them, i.e. don’t put your whole bankroll up for grabs. (this applies to many aspects in life)
- Literally falling and destroying my ankle and leg on a field trip during my first teaching job: I had no choice but to learn something new…how to deal with the unexpected, and how to persevere.
- Girl is with me, girl breaks up with me, me = sad: It all happens for a reason J Get up, brush yourself off, keep smiling.
- Fist meets Face, bones become metal: Lots of valuable lessons, friendships, and positive perspectives were formed.
- Loss of family members and friends: This just sucks, but our outlook, how we remember those who are no longer with us, and gaining a new perspective on life and those we spend it with the living is a very valuable lesson.